By Dr. Chris Thurman
Psychologist, Minirth-Meier Clinic
Workbook by Dr. Linda A. Ratcliff, Th.D., Ed.D.
TABLE OF CONTENTS
PART 1: The Lies We Believe |
PART 2: Telling Ourselves the Truth |
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| CHAPTER 1: | The Truth About the Lies We Believe | CHAPTER 7: | The Truth About the Truth | ||
| CHAPTER 2: | Self-Lies | CHAPTER 8: | To Err is Human | ||
| 1. | "I Must Be Perfect." | CHAPTER 9: | You Can’t Please Everyone | ||
| 2. | “I Must Have Everyone’s Love and Approval.” | CHAPTER 10: | There Is No Gain Without Pain | ||
| 3. | "It is Easier to Avoid Problems Than to Face Them.” | CHAPTER 11: | You Don’t “Have To” Do Anything | ||
| 4. | “I Can’t Be Happy Unless Things Go My Way.” | CHAPTER 12: | Virtue Lies in the Struggle, Not the Prize | ||
| 5. | “My Unhappiness Is Somebody Else’s Fault.” | CHAPTER 13: | Life Is Difficult | ||
| CHAPTER 3: | Worldly Lies | CHAPTER 14: | You Reap What You Sow | ||
| 1. | “You Can Have It All.” | CHAPTER 15: | You Are Not Entitled to Anything | ||
| 2. | “My Worth is Determined by My Performance.” | CHAPTER 16: | Emotional Pain Is Good | ||
| 3. | “Life Should Be Easy.” | CHAPTER 17: | You Are Going To Die | ||
| 4. | “Life Should Be Fair.” | CHAPTER 18: | Is There An Ultimate Source of Truth? | ||
| 5. | “You Shouldn’t Have To Wait for What You Want.” | CHAPTER 19: | The Truth About God and You | ||
| 6. | “People Are Basically Good.” | CONCLUSION: | How To Defeat Your Lies | ||
| CHAPTER 4: | Marital Lies | ||||
| 1. | “All My Marital Problems Are My Spouse’s Fault.” | ||||
| 2. | “If Our Marriage Takes Hard Work, We Must Not Be Right for Each Other.” | ||||
| 3. | “My Spouse Can and Should Meet All of My Emotional Needs.” | ||||
| 4. | “My Spouse Owes Me (For All I Do).” | ||||
| 5. | “I Shouldn’t Have To Change Who I Am To Make Our Marriage Better.” | ||||
| 6. | “My Spouse Should Be Like Me.” | ||||
| CHAPTER 5: | Distortion Lies | ||||
| 1. | “A Mountain Out of a Molehill” | ||||
| 2. | “Personalization: Taking Everything Personally” | ||||
| 3. | “Polarization: Making Everything Black or White" | ||||
| 4. | “Selective Abstraction: Missing the Forest for the Trees” | ||||
| 5. | “Overgeneralization: History Always Repeats Itself” | ||||
| 6. | “Emotional Reasoning: Feelings Equal Facts” | ||||
| CHAPTER 6: | Religious Lies | ||||
| 1. | “God’s Love Must Be Earned.” | ||||
| 2. | “God Hates the Sin and Sinner.” | ||||
| 3. | “Because I’m a Christian, God Will Protect Me From Pain and Suffering.” | ||||
| 4. | “All My Problems Are Caused by My Sins.” | ||||
| 5. | “It is My Christian Duty to Meet All the Needs of Others.” | ||||
| 6. | “A Good Christian Doesn’t Feel Angry, Anxious or Depressed.” | ||||
| 7. | “God Can’t Use Me Unless I’m Spiritually Strong.” | ||||
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