Chapter 4: Feeling Controlled Causes Anger

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1.	What is STEP 4 toward anger management?

2.	A environment is a major factor that creates anger.

3.	builds when you realize someone else is calling the shots and can do little to get back into the driver’s seat.

4.	No human was created to be controlled by another. Read Genesis 1:26-28 and list the things that man have been allowed to control.
	a) (v. 26b)
	b) (v. 26c)
	c) (v. 26d)
	d) (v. 26e)
	e) (v. 26f)

5.	Read Galatians 3:26-29. In God’s perfect plan all believers are equal and part of the body of Christ. There is no distinction between:
	a) (v. 28a)
	b) (v. 28b)
	c) (v. 28c)

6.	As we mature we should learn the value of
	and
	within our families, marriages, friendships, workplaces, and churches.

7.	What instructions are we given in the following Scriptures?
	a) (1 Cor. 12:25a)
	b) ( 1 Cor. 12:25b)

8.	When cooperation is replaced by
	it causes us to feel controlled and that leads to anger.

9.	Name some of the ways controlling behavior is displayed.
	a)
	b)
	c)
	d)
	e)
	f)
	g)
	h)
	i)
	j)

10.	Through
	you are protesting the fact that others place such little trust in you.

11.	Is control always bad?
	Yes No
	Briefly explain your answer.

12.	What are the three reasons people are too controlling?
	a)
	b)
	c)

13.	What tends to happen when problems surface or emotions appear?

14.	When a person experiences an emotional laden circumstance, prompting some friendly advice from another person, why do they often feel controlled?

15.	If this pattern is chronically repeated the person may feel
	and

16.	Read Matthew 22: 35-40. What was Jesus’ familiar reply when He reminded His listeners that relating in love first with God, then with others, is the ultimate goal in life?
	a) (vs. 37-38)
	b) (vs. 39-40)

17.	Relating in love means personal, intimate matters take first

18.	What do the following Scriptures teach about love?
	a) (1 Peter 4:8)
	b) ( 1 Jn. 3:16)

19.	Performance is not insignificant, but it is not the essence of who we are. What we
	, how we , what we
	these elements are at the core of our identities.

20.	While most people consider themselves open-minded enough to allow others to be different, to be unique, their lives do not reflect this

21.	In Ephesians 4:2 how are we commanded to act toward one another?
	a)
	b)
	c)
	d)

22.	We enjoy new and unique experiences, but lasting composure comes when we are able to reduce our world into
	patterns.

23.	Although we may not be consciously aware of it, we desperately want
	and
	issues to be predictable.

24.	People who struggle with anger often complain that they are required to

25.	Harmony among differences is part of God’s ingenious design. He does not intend everyone and everything to be the same; instead we are to blend our uniqueness in complementary ways. What does the Apostle Paul say about this in Romans 12: 4-5?
	a) (v. 4)
	b) (v. 5)

26.	How does the Apostle Paul state this biblical truth in Ephesians 4:16?

27.	No apology is required when differentness is evident. Your only task is to be certain you are living in a way that is

28.	In 1 Thessalonians 5:14 what exhortation does the Apostle Paul make?

29.	Controlling behavior also relates to a history of
	rather than choice.

30.	Why do we resent obligatory impositions?

31.	Controlling people believe if
	are eliminated, then the chance for irresponsibility can be erased as well.

32.	Another person’s attempt to control us is an invitation to a
	play, and we often accept that invitation
	by engaging in our own tactics.

33.	Using Romans 12:17-18 how would you instruct someone who was tempted to engage a controlling person?
	a) (v. 17)
	b) (v. 18)

34.	What is the net result when you get hooked into emotional warfare?

35.	In Proverbs 15:1, how does Solomon instruct us to answer in an emotionally charged situation?

36.	Briefly explain this passage (Proverbs 15:1) in your own words.

37.	What do the following Scriptures teach about love?
	a) ( Titus 1:13)
	b) (Gal.6:1)

38.	What is happening when we resolve not to respond to a wrong with a wrong?
	a)
	b)
	c)

39.	To break the grip of another person’s control and to refrain from becoming controlling ourselves, we can acknowledge God’s

40.	Read Genesis 2:16-17. As God explained the rules of the garden how did He declare our freedom in the first sentence He spoke to Adam?

41.	In His statement to Adam, God was explaining that each human is given freedom the

42.	God also explained that freedom is best balanced by a submission to His declaration of
	and .

43.	What choice does the psalmist declare in Psalms 119:30?

44.	When people are controlling what is taking place?

45.	As we seek victory over anger we would do well to follow this original principle:

46.	In freedom we choose to manage our anger by using one of two healthy choices:
	a)
	b)